Writing your Wedding Vows

Why Writing Your Own Vows Is Totally Worth It

Let’s be real—your wedding vows are the heart of your ceremony. They’re your chance to tell your partner (and everyone else) exactly why you love them, why you’re promising forever, and maybe even why you put up with their snoring. It’s not every day you get to stand up, spill your heart out, and your partner cry happy tears (bonus points if you can make them laugh too).

But here’s the thing—great vows don’t just happen. They take a little time, thought, and maybe a glass (or two) of your favourite drink. So grab a pen, pour yourself a glass of wine, a beer, or even a fancy coffee, and make it a fun date with yourself. Reflect on your love story, get nostalgic about your best memories, and think about the promises that matter most to you both.

Remember, this isn’t about perfection—it’s about authenticity. Be yourself, whether that means being sentimental, funny, or a mix of both. Put your heart
into it, and trust me, those words will hit home like nothing else on your big day. After all, these vows are more than just words—they’re the foundation of your happily-ever-after. So take your time, have a laugh, maybe shed a tear, and most importantly, enjoy the process!

Ready? Let’s make those vows unforgettable.

How to write your wedding vows

Start Early: Begin drafting your vows weeks or months ahead of the wedding. This gives you time to refine your thoughts without stress.
Reflect on Your Relationship: Recall your first meeting, your favourite memories, and the moment you knew they were "the one." Think about what makes your partner unique and how they make you feel.
Speak from the Heart:

Write in your own voice, as if you're having a heartfelt conversation with your partner.
Avoid overcomplicating your words; simplicity is often more powerful.
Focus on the Future:
Share your hopes, dreams, and promises for your future together.

Mention specific things you’re looking forward to as a married couple.
Include Personal Touches:
Add humour or anecdotes that only the two of you would understand.
Reference shared interests, inside jokes, or special moments that define your relationship.
Make Promises:
Commit to specific actions or values that reflect your love (e.g., "I promise to always support your dreams" or "I vow to be your biggest cheerleader").

Be Specific and Personal:
Replace generic phrases with details unique to your relationship. Instead of "I love you because you're kind," say, "I love how you always leave notes in my lunchbox."
Balance Emotion and Humor:
Mix heartfelt declarations with lighthearted moments to keep your vows engaging.
Ensure humor complements the sentiment and doesn’t overshadow it.
Set the Right Length:
Aim for 1-2 minutes to keep your vows meaningful but concise.
Practice reading aloud to gauge the timing and flow.
Avoid Overused Phrases:
Skip clichés like "You complete me" unless they genuinely resonate with your story. Instead, use original expressions that truly capture your feelings.
Draw Inspiration:

Look to poems, quotes, or songs that resonate with your relationship for
inspiration, but make sure your vows remain personal.

Practice Aloud:
Reading your vows aloud helps you ensure they sound natural and heartfelt.
This also gives you confidence for the big day.
Keep a Surprise Element:
Avoid sharing your vows with your partner beforehand for an authentic, emotional moment during the ceremony.

Write It Down and bring them with you! you never know if your nerves will get the better of you on the big day and your mind might go blank!

Wedding Vows Writing Template & Examples

Introduction: Your Love Story

Purpose: Share how your relationship began and what makes your connection unique.

Examples:

“From the moment we first met [describe the scene], I knew you were special.”
“Our love story began [describe how you met/first connected].”
“Who would have thought that [unexpected moment] would lead me to you?”

Reflections on Your Partner

Purpose: Highlight the qualities you admire most about your partner.

Examples:

“Your kindness shows in the way you [specific action].”
“I am constantly in awe of your [specific quality - e.g., resilience, compassion, humor].”
“You challenge me to be a better person by [specific way they inspire you].”

Promises and Commitments

Purpose: Make meaningful, personal promises that go beyond traditional vows.

Examples:

“I promise to support your dreams, even when they seem impossible.”
“I commit to being your biggest cheerleader and your safest harbor.”
“When challenges come, I promise to face them together, hand in hand.”

Specific, Personal Promises

Purpose: Create unique, personalised commitments that reflect your relationship.

Examples:

“I promise to always make you laugh, especially during tough times.”
“I vow to continue our tradition of [specific shared activity/ritual].”
“I commit to [specific action that matters to your partner].”

Emotional Commitment

Purpose: Express the depth of your emotional connection and love.

Examples:

“My love for you is not just a feeling, but a choice I make every single day.”
“You are my home, my heart, my everything.”
“I choose you, not just today, but every day that follows.”

Closing Statement

Purpose: Summarise your commitment and look forward to your future together.

Examples:

“Today, I give you my heart, completely and forever.”
“Our love is my greatest adventure, and I can’t wait to see where we’ll go.”
“With you, I am home. With you, I am whole.”

Pro Tip: Write multiple drafts. The first version is rarely the final version.

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